Friday, November 16, 2007

My Question for God

Two days ago, my Happy Post was triggered by a newborn baby and his mother. I'm still happy and I'm sure the new mother is also happy but I heard from her sister today that she had to go through 20hrs of labor and is now dealing with all the pain of recovery and breastfeeding. Not unusual I suppose. I went through 18hrs with Aaron and I can recall that pain in an instant. Anyway, her sister is not a mother (yet) and asked the question "Why would ANY woman want to go through childbirth?" There are as many answers to that as there are women. And thats not the question of the day anyway.

Before I had Aaron, before I THOUGHT of having him and probably around the time that I told myself that I will never want to experience childbirth, I had this question for God. This will be the first thing I ask him if I ever meet him. Its not that I'm questioning him, I just want to know.

Why do women bear the bulk of the procreating responsibility?
PMS. Pregnancy (together with morning sickness, constant bathroom breaks, insomnia, stretch marks, plus 1000 other things). CHILDBIRTH. Breastfeeding. Menopause. Notice how there is physical pain involved with ALL of these? Maybe my question is actually more like "Why is there so much pain involved for women?"

I'm not here to say that women are superior, deserve more from men or anything like that so guys, don't leave me any nasty comments. This is purely a question about our physiological differences. Plenty of men, including my own MAN, make up for the lack of physical pain they had to go through by enduring the verbal assaults from the women going through the pain. I know they also do their best to carry out all the slave duties around the house once the baby is out. Plenty of dads out there are amazingly hands on.

Let me know what you think. Maybe God surfs the internet too and will send me an answer.


noisms said...

The thing is, thousands of years ago, men had other responsibilities that made up for not having to go through the pain of childbirth - i. e. they might end up being killed by another guy from the neighbouring tribe or else by a wild animal while off hunting. So it balanced out.

Nowadays the balance is unfair, in a way. But men do have to put up with a heck of a lot from you women, so I think the pain is basically equal. For example: every night during winter I have to be used as a hot water bottle for my partner, as she grabs me with her freezing cold hands and won't let me go until she's warmed up. There are loads of other things. Admittedly they don't hurt as much as childbirth. But they all add up.

Kelly Mahoney said...

That is a very good question. We get stuck with so much and it's not all that pleasant. Maybe the pain is a way to make us earn the maternal instict or something? I don't have kids so I have nothing profound to say on the subject.

My mom was in labor for 24 hours with me. She won't let me forget it, either.

Kellan said...

It's the whole Adam and Eve thing - we are just paying the price - I think. No, I think is it is like everything in life, you have to have the bad, the painful, the sad ... to truly appreciate the good - to appreciate life! It's a balance - look at the payoff in child birth - look at it! It is so worth the pain - right??

Thanks for coming over and leaving such a nice Anniversary wish. Take care and see you soon. Kellan

Evelyn said...

Looks like you have expanded the list. It used to be just, "God, why do women have periods?" :-)

Bilbo said...

The religious folks will tell you that you're still paying the price of Eve's disobedience to God in the Garden of Eden. But the truth is that most men aren't tough enough to go through what women do. And, of course, men do have to live with the women while they go through the various agonies of their lives, which can be ... interesting.