Tuesday, June 24, 2008

The Benefit of the Doubt

I am a really big 'Benefit of the Doubt' giver. Its what comes most naturally to me. Sometimes I have suspicions but just forget them. I guess thats what it means to give the benefit of the doubt.

I learnt from the last girl who worked with us that giving too much of this will just cause people to draw on it more. They even get slack with their deceit and blatant in their lies. I suppose they start to think I'm stupid. And this is when a person like me starts withholding the benefit of the doubt.

Its stupid to stupidly give the benefit of the doubt all the time. I feel bad for trying to trap people but some people just will not admit to it if you don't catch them in the act. I'd rather just have it out in the open and address whatever the issue is. Most of the time, I know that people lie because they feel they have no other choice.

In case you're wondering, the trigger for all my thoughts today is Aini. She's the girl that started to work for us about 2 months ago. The same one that we have encouraged and given time off for completing school. Everything has been good but in the past week, she has found some excuse or other to not work on 3 days. There have been several other odd occurrences in previous weeks too. From past experience, I know we need to address this now or the behavior will just continue because she'll start to think we're easy (or stupid!).

3 comments:

MamaGeek said...

Oh that's a tough one and one that I totally get. My parents always use to say: "the first time, shame on you - the second time, shame on me".

Mike said...

I don't know what to advise to do on this one but I'm going to give YOU the benefit of the doubt that you'll do the right thing.

John said...

Good luck, Amanda.

By the way, my wife advised me that your letter arrived yesterday. I can't wait to get home to read it.