Friday, August 28, 2009

Sneak Peak

Guess who's foot?

My Next Little Man! Yes, its a boy :)

I've been sitting on this news for a week now but have been telling people that have asked me via IM or email. I know there are many more friends and family members that visit my blog so I wanted to share it here too.

Admittedly, I've had some apprehension in sharing because the responses so far made me wonder if broadcasting this widely was a good idea after all.

A couple of months ago, when people first heard that we were expecting No. 2, there were huge smileys and congratulations all round. It was fantastic news!

A little under half the responses this week were along the lines of:

"2 monsters huh?"

"The next one will be a girl."

"WHAT?! Another boy?"

"Ah....I C...."

"You can have another one."

He hasn't even been born yet and already people are overlooking him, feeling disappointed (on behalf of us I suppose), categorizing him and continuing their wait for a girl. So what if I don't have a pigeon pair? He's not a temporary fill-in for a future baby girl!

The first question people asked after I told them we were expecting again was "Do you want a boy or a girl?". Actually, some just jumped straight in to say "I bet you want a girl". My response from the start has always been "I want a healthy baby." And he's healthy.

So to answer the question again, because of course, I did spend time wondering what the gender was....

I couldn't decide. I knew that if it was a girl I would be able to go crazy shopping for all the cute baby girl clothes. But, I also thought a boy would be a good mate for Aaron. And, maybe I've already learnt a few things being a mom to a boy and another boy would be easier. In the end, I really didn't care.

Now that we know its a little baby boy, we're excited over all the fun two boys can share. Maybe I should invest in some more Thomas & Friends stuff now. I'm feeling a little protective over him, wanting to shield him from those who may not immediately send of cheery vibes but I know that nobody was intentionally being insensitive. I can see how their responses may be 'natural'. So, I'm hoping that sharing it here will get rid of the bulk of those responses before the baby actually arrives.

To those who shared in our joy and helped balance things out, "THANK YOU". You can't imagine how much appreciate it.


Mike said...

I'd never heard the term 'pigeon pair' before. I learned something new today. I'm done for the day.

Scott and Elaine said...

Congratulation Amanda and Richard on your baby boy! What's your due date again? I know you're half way, so are you due Jan or December?

Hehe.. now i know it's a boy, I can buy you boy things instead of neutral.

Your new baby boy will make a fantastic mate for Aaron. They can go mad together. And I am sure Aaron will make a wonderful big brother, as he already is such a wonderful son.

John said...

Congrats, Amanda!

fiona said...

cute foot there!

i say go ahead n' splurge on T&F! :)

NomadicExpat said...

Yes, I'm guilty. I was the one who said, "What?! Another boy?!" I guess my reason for that initial response was because I simply want a girl to buy pretty things for. I know, how shallow right?

Ok, no Maya then, but please, no Moses ok?!

Jean-Luc Picard said...

It's the baby that counts, not what sex it is, people should know that.

Tanya said...

Welcome to my world! Boys are awesome- not that I was particularly bothered whether they were boys or girls- but I can honestly say I am proud to be a mum of boys and they couldn't be more different- definately not a pair of anything pigeon or otherwise ;)

Bilbo said...

Boy or girl isn't as important as healthy and loved. Looks like there's no problem here! Congratulations!

Amanda said...

Mike - I also didn't know about pigeon pair until I went to read about all boy families.

Elaine - It could be a New Year's Baby! I'm sure the baby will still play with a year or so.

John - Thanks

Fiona - You can't imagine how tempted I am!

NE - Actually, I really understood your response. Btw, this wasn't meant to be a post bashing people who didn't 'congratulate' ok.

JLP - You're absolutely right. And luckily, most people eventually figure that out.

Tanya - I can't wait !! Actually, I've read so many heart warming stories from moms to all boys....they do sound so sweet.

Bilbo - I knew a wise one like you would see straight through to what was important. Thank you.